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Sunday, March 13, 2016

The Welfare Check



The call came in at 3:18 pm. The roommate was calling because she hadn’t heard from her roommate since Monday. It was now Wednesday of the Spring Break week. I’ve responded to at least a hundred welfare calls over the years, with the majority occurring in Student Housing. I phoned the roommate’s parents and asked them if they had spoken to their child in the last couple of days. Her mother didn’t answer so I called her father who answered the home phone. He said his daughter should be in a nearby city participating in an activity but since he hadn’t spoken to her, he would appreciate it if I did go and do a quick check. I told him I’d call him back in about 5-10 minutes and hung up.

I always take someone with me, usually a police officer, especially if it is after business hours, but many times a Maintenance Supervisor goes, too, instead of an officer. The girls’ apartment was dark, no sound. I walked in calling for her and not hearing any response turned to the Maintenance Supervisor and walked down the hallway, turning on the hall light as I went. All the doors were closed. An odd feeling came over me. Since we had no idea whose room was whose, I took one door, opened it, no one there, and went to the next. While the MS opened his, he said, “No one is here.” I opened my door.
I immediately saw in the dim light of the hallway, there was someone in the bed, so I called her name very loudly. I expected her to jump up and tell me to get the heck out. I pushed open the door and turned on the light. I could see immediately that I was too late. The MS walked quickly to the apartment door as I dialed 911. 

It was too late. I could do nothing for her. At that moment all I could think of was that this vibrant, lovely girl was gone and no matter how awful this day was for me, it did not compare to how awful it will be for her mother and father, brothers and sisters, her roommate … the survivors. I know, too, that I will remember every single detail of this event and how I whispered to the 911 Operator who told me to get her on the floor and start CPR that "I can’t."

 “Why not?” she asked. "Because. Because she is not alive any more," I whispered. Then I started crying.

Obviously, this is a traumatic event. Playing it over and over in my mind, I have to believe that if we implemented a Red Dot Policy, perhaps we could be more prepared that this type of medical emergency could be prevented from becoming life threatening. After all, as on site professionals, what do we really know about our residents? Would it not make sense to initiate something as simple as adding a form to the move in process asking residents/Guarantors for permission to know if there is any known health condition that could become life threatening? Couldn’t that Red Dot could be placed on the file and added to the property management software in some way? Would it not make sense for onsite personnel to know whether or not those on the Red Dot List will be staying home alone during break periods when the campus closes? I can’t help thinking that had I known she had a medical condition and was staying behind alone for an entire week, our community could have checked in with her each day simple as a safety procedure.

Can accidents like this ever be prevented?



Sunday, December 20, 2015

The Gesture of a Gentleman



I was standing in the one and only Hallmark Store in our town when my phone rang. A call from the Leasing Office. Uh oh. And on a Saturday.Turned out a parent was in the office worried about her daughter, who she said she couldn’t reach, so I told the Leasing Specialist I was only minutes away from her property so I would come in in a few. After that (and it would NOT be Finals Week and semester end without at least one Welfare Call in #studenthousing) I drove back to the shopping center where the Hallmark Store was located.

I was waiting my turn to go up the aisle of the lot when someone else took his turn. I wasn’t paying too close attention but noticed a very elderly woman walking across the lot from the store. She crossed in front of the car and looked confused. She wasn’t holding anything and I kind of wondered if she was looking for her car (silently thinking, WoW! Do you still drive?) Then another man walked out of the store and stopped. He apparently was sizing up this woman’s predicament, too. The car in front of me pulled up to the elderly lady and waited beside her. She caught a look at the driver and immediate recognition registered on her face and she began to walk around the front of the car to the passenger side. She seemed pretty unsteady on her feet and for a split second I worried she might fall.

Quietly and quickly the man waiting at the curb stepped off and immediately went to her, offered his arm and walked her around to the passenger side. He was speaking to her and she was nodding her head. He reached for the car door, opened it and helped her into the seat. Then he smiled and said something else and closed the door. He walked away to find his own car and carry on with his day. I was waiting far enough back to see everything but not close enough to hear anything. 

The gesture of this gentleman touched my heart deeply and I suddenly missed my mom. How sweet and thoughtful of him to see this person in need and reach out. It inspired me. How I wanted to get the opportunity to carry this forward, and I intend to do just that. I will especially look for these opportunities when dealing with my teams and our residents. It doesn’t cost anything to be kind.